


A Shadow of One's Self
Who Knows What Traits Lurk Within
December 14, 2020
In our workplaces and in our lives, we all boast strengths—traits that can equip us well for working with and leading others. But to Steve Mortenson, associate professor of communication, those strengths can be accompanied—and sometimes distorted—by their own shadows. Ambitious go-getters, for example, can also be prone to becoming work-a-holics, exposing a darker side to an otherwise laudable trait. So relish your strengths—but beware of their shadows.
HELPER vs. DRUDGE
HELPER
Altruistic, empathetic,
compassionate;
puts others first
DRUDGE
Overwhelmed,
resentful, taken
for granted

HERO vs. SADIST
HERO
Courageous,
commanding,
takes action
SADIST
Uses confidence to
intimidate or blame;
uses truth to wound
FRIEND vs. SIDEKICK
FRIEND
Loyal, steadfast,
trustworthy
SIDEKICK
Emotionally needy;
aggressive with critics
MERRY MAKER vs. RUSH HOUND
MERRY MAKER
Enthusiastic,
relatable, positive
RUSH HOUND
Undisciplined,
lacks follow through

GUARDIAN vs. WORRIER
GUARDIAN
Responsible,
disciplined,
accountable
WORRIER
Always on high alert,
mistrusts others
CREATOR vs. VICTIM
CREATOR
Original,
authentic,
passionate
VICTIM
Overly sensitive,
disdains convention

PEACEMAKER vs. AVOIDER
PEACEMAKER
Inclusive, flexible,
accommodating
AVOIDER
Sacrifices to keep peace;
procrastinates
MONARCH vs. TYRANT
MONARCH
Orderly, decisive,
timely, organized
TYRANT
Controlling, afraid
of uncertainty

GO-GETTER vs. WORKAHOLIC
GO-GETTER
Ambitious,
competitive,
inspiring
WORKAHOLIC
Needs to be admired;
identifies with
achievements
EXPERT vs. KNOW IT ALL
EXPERT
Knowledgeable,
analytical,
problem-solver
KNOW IT ALL
Stubborn,
intolerant,
emotionally cold

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